This won't happen to you!
Happy February! After wrapping up our exploration on performance anxiety regulation, we're kickin' back this week with some good feelings and mayyybe a little light Facebook stalking Let's dive in!
Do you ever wonder how different your life might be if you craved practicing the same way you crave an ooey-gooey chocolate chip cookie!?
We learned the coolest thing from Dr. Laurie Santos, Professor of Psychology at Yale University, this week. Our brain processes things that give us pleasure, like having a fulfilling practice session, differently than things we crave. There is a mechanism that will drive you toward screen-time, but that mechanism is not designed to drive you toward a good yoga session!! (shoot!!)
So, when we're thinking about our greater well-being, it can help to fine-tune our self-knowledge dial by distinguishing what ultimately gives us pleasure from what feels good in the moment.
Checking in on how you tend to feel AFTER you engage in an activity can help. Some great well-being boosters are: calling a friend, connecting with somebody, engaging in a hobby that feels good, moving your body, or going outside for a walk.
It's unlikely we'll ever crave these renewing activities the way we crave other things, but you don't have to rely on willpower to choose well throughout the day. Shift your focus from seeking motivation to seeking ease. Rather than trying to want to do an activity, how can you set up your life to make it easier so you end up doing it?
Ok that aboot covers what to love well this week. Let's move on...
In case the photo seen above is a little unclear, it's of a Canadian named Wayne Gretzky. His nickname is The Great One. Twenty-two seasons after retirement he still holds 60 NHL records.
With Wayne is basketball superstar Charles Barkley. Known as Sir Charles, he was an 11-time NBA All-Star and was one of the most dominant rebounders in the game.
We both love hockey, being from Canada and Chicago. While looking through Facebook, Jeff came across his hockey hero! After randomly clicking around on things, this photo appeared. The Great One about to go at it with Sir Charles!!!
It's so inspirational to see amazing athletes like Charles stepping wayyyyyyy out of his comfort zone! Ha! He's doing so because the experience of goal-tending for Wayne Gretzky would probably be amazing for him. He also knows how great the experience is for us, the audience, to see them together shedding their egos and making things about a fun and healthy challenge. Wayne is stepping out of his comfort zone too, by being on ice in those dress shoes. He almost looks more uncomfortable than Charles!
We mention this is just to remind you of the power of photos and light internet stalking your heroes, whether it be musician, athlete, author, cook, educator, parent, sibling…dive onto the internet now and soak up some inspiration from someone you admire. Love them well while stealing some energy for a moment.
(Image Source: Liz and Mollie)
Head down. Work harder, faster, sweatier, longer...
That's one approach to reaching goals. It's one of time-honored lore. Unfortunately, it ignores a concept very honored in Japanese culture. It's called balance. Ying/Yang. Work hard/play hard. All that good stuff.
There's also a moment in the film, "The Shining" where it's made very clear that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. It's an intense scene, but yikes, it sure shows what can happen when our lives are....ok, no. It's a scary movie. this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you. this won't happen to you.this won't happen to you...
Ok, I think we've covered what can happen if you don't let go of the idea that productivity means ONLY hard work. Balance your workload with health and play load. ...and also, remember to have what's called, "other people" included in your time off. Connection is more important than ever, in this time of quarantines and distancing.
Plan your work, and work your plan. This makes perfect sense, yes? The problem is when one ignores that first part. Then we're left with just work. It often moves the needle and can reap some reward, but nowhere near as much as if we planned first. Glance at that second pie chart again, plan your work, get some pie, and then do some work.
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Best wishes for a FANTASTIC week!
Dr. Katy Webb
Creative & Managing Director
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